I just caught a truly repulsive show on NBC in which young people borrow babies for a few days to see what it’s like. I guess the amazingly smug point is that they learn how hard it is to be a parent.
Bollocks. You can’t start someone out as a parent by throwing them right into the deep end. You grow with the child, being able to handle more and more as they get older. Moreover, when it’s your kid rather than someone else’s, you have a lot more patience and understanding.
What a bunch of crap.
You know, I’m sure the art dealers this article deals with are, in fact, scummy. But I can’t have too much sympathy with someone who buys “fine” art on a fucking cruise ship. With the exception of duty-free alcohol, everything on a cruise ship is way over-priced. Next, they’ll be upset because those approved discount jewelers in Caribbean ports have way over-priced their merchandise too.
So there is a bit of poetry in this. Rich idiots get on a boat and act like idiots. When Sue and I went on our honeymoon, we only spent money on one over-priced thing — a garnet that Sue really wanted. We probably payed a lot more than it was worth, but a few dozen bucks isn’t going to keep me up at night. I would never by fine jewelry or art from a recommended shipboard dealer. Never.
I still find these $1000 realistic dolls to be incredibly creepy. They look dead to me.
Why was the purchase of Anheuser-Busch by InBev so controversial? Can’t we at least hope this will stop them from foisting tasteless watery beer on America?
Oh, not this again.
Sociologists are discovering that children may not make parents happier and that childless adults, contrary to popular stereotypes, may often be more contented than people with kids.
Parents “definitely experienced more depression,” says Robin Simon, a sociologist at Florida State University who has studied data on parenting.“Part of our cultural beliefs is that we derive all this joy from kids,” says Simon. “It’s really hard for people who don’t feel this to admit it.” Social pressures to view only the positive aspects of child rearing only make the problem worse, she says. “They’re afraid to admit it because it runs so counter to our cultural beliefs that children make you happy.
I’ve called bullshit on this before. And the article notes why:
The fact of the matter is that it’s much easier to quantify pleasure on a moment-by-moment basis that it is to quantify something as intangible as “unconditional love”. Changing a diaper isn’t enjoyable, and teenagers can be such a pain in the ass, but having kids can also be a profound source of meaning for people. (I like the amateur marathoner metaphor: survey a marathoner in the midst of the race and they’ll complain about their legs and that rash and how the race seems like it’s taking forever. But when the running is over they are always incredibly proud of their accomplishment. Having kids, then, is like a marathon that lasts 18 years.) The larger point, though, is that just because we can’t measure something doesn’t mean it isn’t important, or that we should always privilege the quantifiable (pleasure) over the intangible (meaning). Real life is complex stuff.
Exactly. These sense of accomplishment and continuity I will feel as Abby grows up and lives her life is worth a little misery when she pukes all over the couch.
But there’s more. When you have children, you aren’t just trading happiness for some nebulous sense of worth, you’re investing in future happiness. You sacrifice some freedom and happiness today for greater happiness tomorrow. While the instantaneous measure of happiness for parents is lower, the integral of happiness over their lives is likely larger.
Think about this. Suicide rates peak for people in their 70’s and 80’s and the principle motive is loneliness. Having children doesn’t guarantee you won’t be alone when you’re old. But it vastly increases the chance that you won’t be sitting around in an empty house wishing you could go back in time and have kids.
That’s the investment of having children. It’s like saving money for retirement rather than splurging on a car or a flat panel TV that would make you happy today. I’m curious as to what a similar poll would show for people who spend all their money and people versus invest for retirement. I guarantee that people who don’t save for the future are happier. But in the long run, they will be less happy than those who save for their retirement.
Jesus Christ, have sociologists never heard of delayed gratification? Apparently not. This just goes to prove what I’ve always thought: sociology is for people who are too dumb to do economics.
You know, I think that the best thing about this is that the people conducting these studies, if they act on their results, won’t pass their defective genes on to the next generation. So at least my grand-children won’t have to waste time on their blogs tearing apart this nonsense.
Now I will grant that having children isn’t for everyone. And I don’t want to sound like I’m looking down my nose at childless people. Barring an asteroid strike, our race isn’t likely to extinct anytime soon. But then again, that some people get more pleasure out of breeding than others is yet another stake in the heart of this “study”. As I said at Right-Thinking, measuring happiness this way is like giving everyone the same size shoe.
Russell Roberts has an interesting letter from the airlines calling on Congress to ban oil speculation. Never mind that everyone who knows what they’re talking about — including liberal Paul Krugman — agrees that speculation isn’t driving up the price of oil. This is another prime example of how Big Business hates the free market; hates it. What the airlines want is for them to be able to speculate (through strategic buying) but not let anyone else do it.
The problem with critiques of McCain’s positions on issues is that he’s going to have a Democratic Congress. His proposals are completely irrelevant. The only reason to vote for him is to block the Democrats from doing anything stupid.
That might just be enough reason.
Although Microsoft officially stopped selling Windows XP as of June 30, retailers can keep selling it as long as they have copies.
Perhaps as a result of its potentially impending scarcity, XP is near the top of Amazon.com’s software list, with the full version of XP Home at No. 15 and the full version of XP Pro at No. 21.
The highest ranked Vista edition doesn’t crack the top 25, although it does come on nearly all new PCs these days so most people don’t need a boxed copy.
For those keeping score, Apple’s Mac OS X Leopard is No. 7 on the software list, while the highest ranking Vista version is the update version of Windows Vista Home Premium, at No. 41.
What a disaster.
For the nausea-inducing Helms’ tributes, you can’t do better than Rush Limbaugh.
Jesse Helms died on the Fourth of July, the very day that John Adams and Thomas Jefferson passed away. And of course with the media, like here’s the AP: “Jesse Helms, Polarizer, Not a Compromiser.” Jesse Helms, a polarizer, not a compromiser. Was Ted Kennedy a polarizer? Ted Kennedy doesn’t compromise. Chuck Schumer doesn’t compromise. And of course in every story about Jesse Helms, “whether you agreed with him or not,” it says, whether you agreed with him or not, Jesse Helms was XYZ. So Jesse Helms died on July the 4th, the same day as John Adams, whether you agreed with him or not, the same day as Thomas Jefferson, whether you agreed with him or not. But Jesse Helms, John Adams, and Thomas Jefferson, these three Americans had something more in common than the date that they left us. And that is, they believed in things. They said what they believed, and then they stood for what they believed. None of this moving-to-the-center stuff. None of this nuance stuff. None of this “on the other hand,” or “but.”
This is absurd. The entire second episode of the John Adams series — which Rush was praising recently — is about the back-door dealing to ensure that the Declaration of Independence was passed unanimously, not rammed down the throats of unwilling states. The entire sixth episode is about Adams trying to stay out of party politics and avoid a war. I could just imagine the Limbaughs of 1800 saying that Adams was weak for avoiding war with France. In fact, they did say that.
Adams, Jefferson (and Madison, who also died on the 4th) were not hate-spewing, opposition-crushing bigots, like Helms was. They weren’t even close.
Well, money comes and money goes. The day I got two months worth of grant funding, my computer broke. It works, but with the Airport dead, the casing battered, the battery dead, the power cord bent, I just decided to invest my newfound fortune into a Macbook Pro. It came yesterday — I saved about $500 by getting the 2.4 Ghz model off Amazon rather than the 2.5 Ghz model from Apple.
Of course, it was a while before I could enjoy the thing. Before even typing my first letter, I had to:
All of this was interspersed with the wife poking her head in the door every half hour and starting the following conservation.
Sue: So how do you like it?
Me: I’ll let you know when I’m done updating it.
Sue: Still?
I eventually went out into the living room to watch John Adams with her while the Mac churned away.
I finally finished everything after about six hours. And after one day, I’ll just say that it’s sweet. The installed iSight rocks. None of my applications stall or die. I haven’t seen the spinning beach ball of death yet. I’m even enjoying Spaces and Front Row. And it’s nice at work, since it’s a 17″ model and I no longer have to hunch over it.
Why does it seem that stuff that interests me on the internet comes in waves? I’ll got three days with nothing to talking about. And there are 1600 articles I want to blog on. I wonder what the specific blog frequency is. Anyway…